I don’t do a good job balancing. I’m not sure what caused it or when it happened exactly, but for whatever reason I love to constantly throw myself into work. It seems to be an escape mechanism. If something isn’t working out relationship wise, or I struggle or have uncertainty for whatever reason, all I know how to do is work harder, which probably isn’t the correct response.
Even when it is work that disappoints me, such as not being selected for a competitive job or training program, my response is to just be very disappointed and work harder. Since I’ve learned a bit about psychology, it would seem like those times would be the times to reach out to my support structure, family, friends, etc. But I typically don’t.
Sometimes reaching out makes all the difference though. Yesterday I was feeling overwhelmed by work, school, etc. I was talking to an ex-girlfriend now friend, and started complaining about my situation. She promptly mentioned that her mother was dying from cancer and I shouldn’t complain about work that I voluntarily took on. That quickly put things in perspective. I didn’t feel so overwhelmed anymore.