Casual Sex

A weird thing has happened as I’ve gotten older.  I’ve stopped caring about sex as much, or at least casual sex.  Certainly when I was younger that was always the goal when you went out with the guys, to hook up.  But at some point I’ve just gotten tired of it.  It’s not really a loss of sex desire really, there is still very much enjoyment from sex in my relationships.  And I don’t know that I would turn it down if offered, but I just don’t get excited about trying to go out and get laid.

Couple thoughts on that.  A large amount of self validation for men comes from being able to get laid, so after you’ve had enough sex, and/or are generally comfortable with yourself, you aren’t seeking that validation anymore.  Also, you can have some close calls (I’ve had a few broken condom incidents) that make you realize sex can have consequences, and honestly if you aren’t willing to have sex with someone without a condom, you probably shouldn’t be having sex with them period.

Then it seems standards go up.  Once you’ve been with a partner at a certain level of attractiveness, it’s hard to get excited for something less.  Not drinking certainly removes a huge source of temptation; beer goggles will definitely change your standards.

Basically I’d rather just masturbate than go through the trouble of trying to go to a bar to hook up.  So happy St. Patrick’s Day!  I think I’ll sit this one out.

~Dmitri

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