This is a continuation from: https://starandlotus.wordpress.com/2017/05/15/bar-fight-2/
Well, the guy and his girlfriend got arrested and taken away by the police. I had slowly realized that I really should get medical treatment. My friend offered to drive me to the hospital.
It’s a little hazy, but I remember it being a really late night. I did get seen and stitched up. I don’t remember if they took a x-ray, but I learned that my eye socket, cheek bone, and nose had been broken. It was actually a pretty dangerous thing with the eye, I could have easily been blinded or have other permanent damage in that eye, I was lucky. They also diagnosed a concussion because of the memory loss. Overall, it really hammered home the seriousness. Guys like to be macho about a fist fight, but it can have pretty permanent consequences very easily.
While I was being seen, my poor friend who had been driving me around after a night a partying passed out. The hospital staff gave her an IV and she came to, but then they slapped her with a couple hundred dollar bill, I don’t think she had insurance. I paid for it, she had been so nice to me. Something also you don’t think about, the military healthcare took care of everything for me, but my friend would have been up screwed if something happened to her.
Eventually we got patched up and sent home.
Is it possible to reconnect with an old romantic partner and start a relationship again? If things ended for reasons that were now irrelevant (timing was wrong), and it’s still possible that you can give each other what you want, then I don’t see why it would be a bad idea to try to reconnect. Assuming feelings weren’t hurt too bad in the first place, of course.
Obviously you already know each other intimately, so there is a level of comfort. But something I’ve been thinking about, what if there were some issues that maybe were swept under the rug during the relationship that didn’t come out because of trying to be sensitive to each others’ feelings. You know how sometimes it’s hardest to tell a person something the more you care about them. Well, if you are thinking about reconnecting with someone, wouldn’t that be an ideal time to hash out all differences, before you reconnected and became emotionally invested?
You shouldn’t go into a relationship thinking you’ll change someone but discussing and working through differences is still a requirement for any relationship. I think an opportunity to have a frank talk shouldn’t be something to pass up. It can a good final check to see if you really are right for each other or not.
Who enjoys casual dating? Maybe it’s something women like more than men? I’ve never been a fan, my mindset has always been if I don’t see myself marrying the person then we’re just wasting time. That might be a little harsh though.
That mindset tends to make you want to move quickly from one potential partner to the next. Once you see a perceived flaw, then it’s time to cut the strings and move on. You never give it a shot to allow things to develop.
It also cuts out on a lot of fun. Maybe taking things slower and just focusing on having a good time together will actually turn out to be worthwhile. Granted, you might perceive you’re distracting yourself from finding your soulmate, but then again you might find that the person you’re talking to will start to grow on you.
Just some musings as I try to step into the dating world again and just try to keep things casual.